Caring for Yourself and Your Community

Tue, 9/21 12:35PM • 37:58

SUMMARY KEYWORDS: military, military spouses, community, spouses, happening, love, people, Alaska, williams, understanding, husband, talk, heart, world, life, coach, housing, space, conversations, service

SPEAKERS: Ashley Peebles, Lindsey Litton

Lindsey Litton  00:04

Welcome to the MilHousing Nation podcast where we bring you stories from real military spouses who have been in your shoes, from new spouses to veteran spouses. You’ll get tips, tricks, and actionable steps that can help you along your military life journey. Now, here’s Ashley Peebles.

Ashley Peebles  00:23

Welcome, everyone to the MilHousing Nation podcast, I am so thankful that you guys have joined us today, you are in for a treat. So here’s the thing, I get to meet the most beautiful souls being the host of this podcast. And I was just introduced to Miss Kennita Williams. And before I press record, I was like, okay, don’t say anything golden, because it’ll never come out again. And then in five minutes, she had already said, so many nuggets that I took this many notes. So I’m gonna make sure that you guys get to hear all of the special things that she has already shared with me. But what we wanted to focus on this month, in particular, is wellness, and mental wellness, truthfully, like just making sure that our community knows that we’re all here. We’re all going through the same things. And it has been heavy in your that’s a word that can either just use it’s been heavy for a couple years, guys like we, the whole time I’ve been doing this podcast, we have not had it easy as a military community. But I feel like the last couple of weeks have been extra heavy with everything going on just making sure that our military members and our retirees and our spouses have every branch that we’re all okay. And I firmly believe that if we’re all together, within we’re okay, but sometimes you just feel so isolated. I’ve got a beautiful friend in Germany, that feels alone. And I don’t want her to feel alone. Right. So let me introduce you to our beautiful guests today. Miss Kennita Williams, they just moved from North Pole Alaska. How cool is that? to our home base, if you will of Niceville, Florida. So Kennita, if you wouldn’t mind, just take a few minutes and tell us about yourself. What’s your connection to the military? And then why you have such a heart for this piece of our community.

02:22

Oh, Ashley, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I’m so excited. I’m excited to be a part and thank you for even inviting me to this space. I always just enjoyed being able to just speak on the things that I love and feel so passionate about, especially when it comes to like our community. So as far as me I’m Kavita Williams, I’m affectionately known as coach Kay for many people. So I am a military spouse. now retired, my husband is at Air Force, I am high right. So Air Force after 24 years of service, my husband retired. And we were in our house and Air Force flat for seven years. And now here in sunny Florida, Eglin Air Force Base. And so super excited for the big jump, we just moved in the last six weeks or so. So but um, you know, this military world, we don’t get too far away from anywhere that we move, because we just have friends all over the place, you know. And that’s the beauty of the military. And then it’s also the sad part because you have to leave those friends so often. So, coach, Kay, I’m a life coach, accountability coach. I’m known to be pushing each of us ladies and now I have a lot of men that are coming aboard, pushing me forward to do what God has called them to do in this crazy world. Just be who you’re called to be in. If you’re doing that, then you’re doing something right. So that’s who I am. And the what connects me and puts my heart right in the heart of this course military life is like I said, my husband 24 years of service to the Air Force, but also me our civil service for the Air Force. And then ultimately when on the legislative side working for senator McCaskey over and Alaska. So I just have a heart for us as military members, us as military spouses, and then just our community as a whole because sometimes we do have those unique pieces that cause us to, to dig deeper to be able to see some sunshine.

Ashley Peebles  04:36

Oh, I love that. Well now I’m going to call you Coach K. I love I love that I have you. I love that I have you in my circle now. And that’s what’s so beautiful about the military community is once we meet each other and once we connect, we always have each other’s back and we’ve got once you’re in my circle, I don’t let go of you and always want to take care of me One around me. And I think that’s something that runt that’s a crimson thread that runs through the military community is our husbands, our wives, our servicemembers, our protectors, and they are protecting our Nation, and they’re taking care of us. But generally, the ones that are at home, they’re caretakers, and they want to make sure that the community is safe, and that the community is happy, and that the kids are doing well. So I’m so glad that I’ve got you in my circle now. And if you ever need anything, you know, I’m right here. I don’t know.

05:30

I love that.

Ashley Peebles  05:31

I don’t know that I’m much good for anything. But I’m here I’m usually relaxed.

05:37

Whole thing and I love laughter and listen to actually like, so the beauty of this is to like when you’re in North Pole, Alaska. And so when you now move closer, and then everybody is like, Oh, I love, just love on you, you know, being so far away. It just feels so good to be able to. And I love that you said that that Crimson thread like that just warms my heart just hearing that because you want that and you need it, especially when you’ve been isolated for so long in a base like that, you know, so I’m glad you’re in my circle now.

Ashley Peebles  06:08

No kidding. I can’t. So we never did Alaska. And when we were stationed overseas, we were in England, and it didn’t feel so isolated. We didn’t even have to learn a new language, you know. So. Yeah, it was pretty wonderful. So now Alright, so you’ve been in this space for a really long time. And thank you for your service. And thank you for your husband’s service. It means so much when when another military family, let me This is a side note. But I think when another military family, thanks to military family for their service, it means an awful lot. Because what it means we’re an all volunteer force. And what it always meant to me, Well, I’m going to cry. But it always meant to me when I got to thank another service members family was thank you for sharing the load, you know, the smaller our force gets, the more my husband had to be gone. And the more we got to share the load, the more we all got to see our spouses and the more our family members got to see their kids grow up. So being able to thank other service members, you know, service members for their service has always been something that’s really special to me. And I think sometimes it gets glossed over that the thankfulness that we all feel is because we’re each doing our part. And when everyone does their part, we get to share that load. So sorry, everyone that’s listening. Y’all got to go on my tangent there and that I’m not the guest. Okay, Canada, you tell me all right. Over the past couple of years, you said it yourself. It’s just been heavy. We’ve had COVID, we’ve had everything under the sun, it feels like hit us. And I remember, I actually lost a business that I had built for a decade in 2019. It went away. And I remember at the end of 2019, I was like, Well, 2020 is got to be better than this one. And 2020 said, Hold my beer, right? Like it was Hold on. Nothing yet. So tell me like what have you seen within our community over the last couple of years? And have you seen anything different or heavier over the last couple of weeks? With everything that’s happening?

08:09

That’s a great question, actually. And then as I you know, think about it. We’re military, and we know how to prepare, we know how to get ready for the battle. We know how, even though things that we don’t want to face like deployment, you know, we don’t want to face it, we but we know it’s coming. So we prepare for it. And we know that our mind already goes into a stage of we’re going to feel this way this is going to happen, I have to start doing this, you know, we our hearts start going that way we start preparing the kids that way. That’s just the way that we function as a military spouse and in a military community. But when something hits us, like COVID-19 caters, when something hit us like a quarantine to your house in life stopped activity stopped outside, like, church stop, like all the things that we’re used to going to and doing and keeping us busy. And all stop so to not be prepared and then to have to take on homeschool to take on like all those things. It was difficult I can say for me. Like I said I was a military spouse for 24 years. So I knew what changed look like I knew what short deployments look like I knew what you know, short term TT wise and things came up like I knew what they look like but for something like this to say that okay, you’re going to be quarantined, okay, you’re going to be in your house Okay. All the events that you have prepared have mental stop you know as a life coach and I like I said I was working for the senator as well. So like all the activities shut down, like all the things that we were preparing for. Stop. And so as I began to talk to like our other military spouses, other just community members and things it it became heavier and heavier like the more I talked, they were just talking And about like, the things that it couldn’t do and the things. So for me, I knew it took a toll, and then things that continue to happen. You know, and then in, in the midst of all the news that we got last week in the last two weeks, with Afghanistan and all of that. So it was just like when we started getting like above water and started seeing some sunshine. It’s like, okay, here it comes. It’s okay, here it comes is Alright, here’s another blow to this, because now we’re looking at New Jersey, or we’re looking at New York, we’re looking at Louisiana, and everybody’s underwater. So it’s just so many things and uncertainties right now. And so with the mental health side of things, that’s what’s that’s where my heart is, and the concern that I have with our servicemembers, with our spouses with our children, you know, the fact that our children, unfortunately, you know, where I live, we were in Alaska, and there was a lot of darkness and things. So we looked at what we went through a lot of suicides that were happening, you went through, not only our servicemembers, where spouses were committing suicide, and then it got down to the children. So like I said, I have a background in legal. So I’ve got to see a lot of ugly things firsthand. And so it’s, it’s real, and it’s gone through the community. And it is very heavy. You know, I try to look for other words, but it’s like, it’s just heavy. You just feel it, you weight it weighs on you. And so I see in the community where we all need a team together, right now, we’re all going through something, right? Everybody has something, whether it be your child who’s having a hard time adjusting, going back to school, right, because my son, not only did we now PCs to this other location brand new, he’s transitioning to go to middle school, and not only just Middle School, he’s now having been out of school for a year and a half, because they stopped going to school in March of 2019. Right, so then, that whole year of 120, didn’t go to school. And then now he’s going not only to a new community, but the whole idea of going back to structure school, right. So it’s a lot for the children. It’s a lot for parents, it’s a lot for the service member. It’s just a lot. So my whole thing right now is everybody just be kind to one another, you know, it’s it’s one of these things where we’re all going through something big, small. Just, nothing’s too small right now. Because it seems like everything is big, and everything is is waiting. So my thing is let us all like team together like never before, come together because we’re there’s unity, their strength. And so I think if we start unifying, and really coming together in a world where division seems like it’s trying to really take control, you know, whether it be

13:07

From the race aspect, or whether it be from Are you are you vaccinated or not like or, you know, it’s like, the division is trying to arise all around us. And I just really believe we just need to step back, take a deep breath and come together, because we’re all going through something

Ashley Peebles  13:29

You are so you’re so spot on. I took so many notes, you’re not even ready. One of the two of the things that I want to hit on and just put stop, is it Nothing is too small. Because something happens, like has happened over the last couple of weeks. Like I can’t tell we had something big happen in our life. Big, but it wasn’t as big as what was happening in Afghanistan. Nothing big happened in our life. But I didn’t. I didn’t have to meet a plane with a flag draped casket, right? So a lot of times you It helps to look at what you’re going through and think oh my goodness, it could be worse. Sometimes it helps. But I think a lot of times from a mental health aspect. We sweep it under the rug because we’re not meeting the flag draped casket. We think that what we’re going through is too small. So you saying that is so helpful to hear for our community and don’t you think and I guess let me just let you speak on this for a second. talking to someone and just getting it out putting it out in the air like giving it legs like what you’re feeling Don’t you think that would help all of us right now to just have someone to talk to Hey

14:43

MilHousing Nation listeners. I’m Lindsey Litton, co-founder of the MilHousing Network. Today I briefly interrupting this episode to bring you credit monitoring and credit tips with ID IQ. Id IQ is an on a mission to educate and help Families protect their identity and monitor their credit. Today I’m joined by Darren Rhoda, with ID IQ. And he’s going to be giving us three ways that we can protect ourselves from identity theft. Darren, welcome. We’re excited to chat with you today.

15:15

Thanks so much for having me. I’m excited to be here.

15:18

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15:27

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16:17

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16:30

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17:22

Wow, that’s huge. Karen. Yeah. So obviously, his military families were constantly on the move or in and out of different countries. So identity theft happens, right? Absolutely. So what is the first step if somebody wanted to learn more about how to protect their identity that they can take, just to kind of learn more about the services that you just talked about?

17:42

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18:37

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19:01

yes I you know what, like I even tell everyone like I have done so many virtually virtual coffees it’s been like ridiculous like, but it’s so good you know, it’s like that. You know, we have been so disconnected like in 2020 but then when you look at it, it’s like yes, we are disconnected but it really I found the time that brought us together too because I can’t remember the last time that my family actually came together because we also busy but during 2020 we actually had zoom birthday parties and we had zoom This is Bingo Night at like game night on zoom and because everybody was trying to think outside the box to come together. And I just think that like being able to talk about things and and setting up Hey Ashley, let’s have a virtual coffee let’s let’s stop for 30 minutes when kids go to school and sit and just talk to you. Know It, it goes a long, long, long way just to get it out and say that I’m struggling with this I. And I know that we’re used to going out to events or used to going out things, but just thinking outside of the box just to say, Hey, can we set up like a chat girls chat on zoom? Like, can we do something and I know everybody’s getting so tired of zoom. But you know, zoom has been able to stretch us across the board where, you know, if I’m in Alaska, I’m able to talk to Ashley, and then we’re still able to stay connected, it’s helped us think outside the box. So I think we need to kind of stand there for a little bit and have those conversations just kind of say, girl, I’m struggling and just be honest. And like you said, not sweeping under the rug not try to hide it not. I mean, because nine times out of 10 when you say that you’re having an issue, that’s gonna leave a door open for someone else to say, Oh, my God, I didn’t want to admit it, but I am too, right. So I, I’ve had that happen so many times, you know, just saying, guess what, I am not built for homeschool. Like,

Ashley Peebles  21:12

like, I know, it

21:15

gives other people permission to say, Oh my God, I’ve been wanting to say that. Like, he can’t Oh, like, it’s so true. Because, like, I’m sitting here, like, my son fired me every day. And just so everybody knows, you know, I’m honest, I let you know, he fired me every day. But that’s okay. I wanted to fire him to like, I’m not the cafeteria lady. And but everything. You know, like, I wasn’t built for that. But um, I think just being honest, and saying that I am struggling or this was hard, or, you know, let’s have this conversation because for, for me, my husband, he did deploy it several times going to Afghanistan. So this did bring up a lot of memories and things like that. So. So to have those here at all across the news, and they start showing some of the old clips and things, you know, it really triggered something. So just to have those conversations and get it out there on the table and talk about it. You’re not the only one going through what you’re going through. And you realize you’re not so much alone, when you start being honest.

Ashley Peebles  22:20

Yeah, I love that. We really were meant to be friends, Canada. So the other thing that you said earlier, before we get on to like some action stuff. The other thing that you said earlier, is something that I have, it’s been on my heart, my husband that actually host marriage retreats. And you know, when you say that, when you say it out loud, you think I’m odd. But at our marriage or treat, someone will say something, and they’ll think I’m the only one going through this, and you wouldn’t believe 10 out of 11 say, oh man, me too. I just didn’t want to say it. The other thing that you hit on is in the Bible, it speaks of unity, like everything is about unity, and it’s about coming together. And it’s about being better together. And I love that our country is full of diversity in so many different ways. But the Bible doesn’t call us to be diverse, it calls us to be unified. And that is what we are so blessed with in the military, is it is a very diverse, diverse culture from every single aspect. But when you’re shoulder to shoulder in a battle, in a matter how diverse you are, because you’re unified. And I think that in what we’re going through right now, if we can just come together, and all the things that are similar, and all the things that we love this country, you’re not going to put your life on the line for a country you don’t care about when we come together and unify. That’s what makes us so special. Like that’s what makes our community so beautiful, is that when I was my husband was deployed in when we lived in England, he was deployed and I had two babies that were sick and in the hospital in side by side hospital beds, and no cared. What no one cared where my accent was from. No one cared what I did for a living no one cared about skin color was they just took care of me and my babies. And I think sometimes you got to go through really hard things, to just push all the stuff that doesn’t matter aside and realize how very unified we are and can be. So I love when you said unity earlier. I was like, Oh, that’s where my heart has been. We just need more of that.

24:36

Yeah, we have that we have to get back to like I said when when we come and we actually sit actually can eat a you know, we sit in a space, the things that we are hurt, where if we begin to talk, we’ll see that we’re not so different. You know, there’s so more. I mean, even in our short conversation in the beginning, we were like oh my god, I was stationed there too. I was there too. You know, it’s like, the more you talk, the more you get a better understanding. And I just think that that is what we are lacking in our community in society, you know, across the board, it’s like, we are so afraid of the unknown sometimes, you know, and it’s like, you know, like you said, in the Bible, it does talk about unity, but then it says, in all things, get an understanding, right. So and I think that’s the thing that we are lacking. When you look at all the situations that we are struggling with right now as, as a society as a community, when we look at like, race, when we look at vaccine, that vaccine, you know, all those things, when we look at all the different things, and it’s like, actually just gonna understand instead of the table, have the hard conversations, right? Have the hard conversations, have the you know, and get outside of your box, sorry, get outside your space, and then get an understanding from your neighbor, get an understanding from that, that mom that, you know, you go to the schools and we kind of just walk past each other. And I and I think when I think about COVID, and things like that, of course, it is ugly thing, and we don’t want to face it, but it has caused us to like talk more and ask questions more. And it’s really kind of broaden our reach in that way where we are like seeing, we’re all wearing these masks. We don’t want to but you know, so like, I’ll have strangers just say to me like, Oh, my God isn’t so hot. Like, yeah. So it’s like those things that are showing us that we’re not also different after all, you know, and it’s like our mind is being played tricks are being played on us that we’re just think we’re so different in this is happening that’s happening. But when we actually see it, think about it, and talk and have a conversation come together, we’ll see that we’re not that different.

Ashley Peebles  27:05

Yeah. And I have the blessing of COVID. One, like you said earlier is our family had so much. But I’ve learned so much over the last year. And I think some people are not maybe they don’t want to learn, I’m not sure. But you The more you talk, the more you and I started filling in words of what you said, the more you talk, the more you hear, the more you learn, the more you love, the more you understand. And I think that is what’s so beautiful about what you do for a living in your life, is you give people a place, and a person to come and talk to. And if they can talk and they can learn and they can hear and they can understand. We’re not so different in my reality in my daily life. My reality is not as bad as what the news is portraying. So like, that’s a whole other podcast. But like, my reality is not that bad. People love people laugh at things you never thought you’d say, Oh, I love your mask. Like, yeah. Like who would have thought. But I do think that sometimes we do not. Sometimes a lot of times, we need to turn off the news. And look at our current reality. And just know that it’s not that bad. I love people, and people love me. And if I can do that, this, look at this segue into the next thing we’re going to talk about, if I love people, and people love me, and I’m making a difference in my four walls, and in my church and in my community, and we really are making a difference, because we’re many, and that’s what you were telling me earlier. So what are some of those? What are some action steps? What are some things we can do? Because that’s what you were saying earlier? That you think

28:50

like Yeah, because you know what happened, Ashley is that we do look at the news. And we look at the big stage and we look at all the influencers and all the people that are out there that are saying buy this, don’t buy this, go here, do this, don’t go here, you know, all of that. But really, it starts at home. It starts at home it starts in our own space. And, and it it’s about how can I make a difference? How can I can either look in the mirror and make a difference in my world? How can it you know, it starts even when we look at our children and we’re teaching them things and we’re teaching them things to say you know, we’re teaching them actual things to do and be kind and all those things like that. So it really does start in our own space. So if you have any sphere of influence, you know, a lot of people say oh coach Kay I can’t do this because you know you’re this and you can get on stage and you can do this but no you can make your home your stage you can make your local church or stage you can make your base your whatever your stage to be able to make a difference. difference. But now you know, if you have a bigger stage and you have, you know, more influence, and you can have a bigger voice, but let’s start at home, let’s start looking in the mirror saying how can I make a difference? What can I do differently. And a lot of times, you know, because I do work with a lot of young military moms, and they don’t work and they don’t. So they’re not going out and being with a lot of people, but guess what you’re at home and you have your children and you could teach them be kind to one another, you can say, teach them about different things in the community they can help with and do and so I had to learn that even as a as a mom, you know, teaching my son, you know how to do different things, because you know, we have our kids, they’re a little spoiled sometimes. And they get, they get so much and kind of we kind of compensate for them having to move a lot different. So so we give them a little bit extra do different things. And but I had to see that in the midst of all this, I was helping him learn. I don’t like them watching the news all the time. But I do want them to be familiar with what’s going on. Right? So making them aware of, hey, that’s not a good thing to say, That’s not a good thing to do. Hey, that was it? Right? How do you feel about that? You know, because they are seeing and hearing different things that are happening around us. And of course, when they’re not going to military school, right when they’re not going to school as well. So they’re hearing things like, from their perspective from civilian sides. And so you know, just kind of just actually, you know, being true to who you are, so that you can be able to help those around you is so important. So just taking those steps to see what you can do as an individual. And then what you can do as a family, what you can do as a church, convenient, whatever, you know how big you know, good, but start with little steps. First, I always say one step in the right direction equals progress. So just take it one step, just one little baby step equals to a big stairway.

Ashley Peebles  32:03

I love it so much, because we’re telling people, so here’s the thing, everybody’s got influence, even if it’s just in your own house. And I think in the days of influencers, it can seem like your influence is small. It’s really not if we all just, oh my goodness, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said over the last year, if everyone would just be kind, all of this all this would go away, like kindness, obviously, I guess kindness is not going to get rid of COVID. But it would get rid of a lot of the uncomfortable of COVID like the vaccine and no vaccine and all that jazz. But kindness is not like it is it is underrated, if you will. And I think that it’s something we can teach so well. So coach Kay. And I would really like to just encourage everyone to use your talents and gifts, use your influence, like nothing is too small, right? I saw something earlier today that was leading up to 911. It was like six days worth of good deeds. But they were they were small things and you think oh, that’s not making a difference for the first one was write a handwritten thank you letter that’s gonna make such a difference to someone. The next one was bad the by the person behind you their coffee in line, that’s gonna make such a difference. And then we all you know, pay it forward, we can make a difference. So we’re going to share that on the MilHousing Nation page  and make sure that everybody can see that. Because if we can get a few 1000 of us to go and thank a first responder this weekend, we can get a few 1000 of us to write a handwritten thank you note or to give a compliment to somebody about their mask. It’s going to make the world a better place. And I’ve always looked at it like this. It’s that the good Lord packs our backpacks with special tools just for your journey. You know, like if Can you get it if we were to trade backpacks? Your my backpack is not gonna do you any good, because he gave me talents. And he gave me gifts. And he gave me tools, particular and special for my journey up that mountain, right. And if we all just dig into our backpack and figure out what it is that he gave us more of that he didn’t give somebody else more of and we start using it. We’re going to make a difference. Like Yeah, even if it’s just a difference in your life and my life, my life’s already been blessed by talking to you today. So I really appreciate your time. You have no idea the the effect that your 30 minutes of time is going to have on our community today. But thank you so much.

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Oh, this has been absolutely My pleasure. I mean, I enjoyed our time together. But just um, you know, just remembering that just to just, you know, start small. Don’t ever say that. You know what you’re doing is not affecting someone else. Because, you know, I was just thinking actually this last weekend, I was sending messages out just on a message. They’re gonna say, Hey guys, I’m praying for you loving you, they can about you. And you know something as well, I got so many responses that were saying, Oh my God, this made my morning, my morning was this and this, and I’m just like, oh, wow, you know, in it, I didn’t even realize it just came to my heart to do and I didn’t. And I didn’t realize the impact that was gonna make I got messages throughout the day that that just turn their morning around. And so you just never know, just what a kind word, a kind pose just to say, because where a smile does something, you know this. It’ll change people’s world. And you still need to understand the impact that you can have by just starting with you start with you.

Ashley Peebles  35:42

I’m going to do that. That’s exactly what I’m going to do when we get off here. There are people that the good Lord dropped into my head and on my heart, and that he always does that for a reason. How amazing is that? It’s always for a reason. You get those messages back and you’re like, oh, my goodness, I was having the worst day you must have known. I didn’t, but somebody else did. So as soon as here, I am going to I’m going to take your words and your action steps and do that. And just know that you in turn by just telling me that you made someone else’s day. So hopefully, we’ll get some people that are paying it forward and in small ways, in big ways. We can make a difference. Thank you so much. kanita It’s been such a blessing to be able to chat with you today. I appreciate you meet me in my truck, because that’s something that we never went over earlier is sometimes we as moms, spouses, military spouses, just human beings in this world. You get called to your kids Co Op and you’re in the truck when you need to record a zoom but thank you so much for being here. It has been such a pleasure. If anyone wants to get in touch with you can either How can they do that? Do you have a website you have an email address? How

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do I do absolutely so they can reach me easy. ww can either Williams comm ke n n i t a williams.com. Or you can reach out to me on Facebook is just kidney to Williams. And also I have model for the king. So I go live I go live on Monday and Wednesday nights it just given words of encouragement inspiration on Mondays and Wednesday on model for the king.

Ashley Peebles  37:21

That is perfect. All right. We appreciate all of you tuning in today. Make sure that if you haven’t subscribed yet to the podcast that you do so. And absolutely make sure that you link up with kanita having more of her in your life can only be a good thing. So thank you so much again. And thank you so much to all the listeners. We will see you again next week. Bye.

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